Welcome to my collection of internet thoughts. I got into pickup because I was always in the friend zone with all the girls I used to hang out with. Using the techniques I finally got laid at 27, and have been on an awesome journey since. These are my stories. :)
Man oh man what a horrible date. This makes the guy in the last one look like a pro. Here are my thoughts:
1) The guy was somewhere else in space in his head. He was definitely NOT with this girl at this date. Next time, be present to your date. Absence is a no no.
2) He asks HER if she's nervous. Great opener dude. Out of the 1000s of openers available online -- you had to ask that. What happened to a good old 'Hi'? I'm sure you could have done way better with "Who lies more?"
3) As said in #1, he was absent -- and therefore also NOT paying attention to her posture or her body language. I think at one point she even reinitiated the conversation -- out of pity. He never picked up on it -- all that time he was in his head thinking she must not like him. Well guess what son, you made your imagination your reality.
What could this guy do better for next time? -----
1) Stop assuming shit like she's too good for you. You went out of your way to dress well, you need to dress the 'inside' of your mind well too. If you believe beautiful women are within your realm, and they do want to sleep with you -- you will achieve it. You have to believe first.
2) Talk about stuff. The last guy in the video below at least talked about stuff he did in Vegas -- at least the girl will remember him as the 'Vegas guy'. You should want this girl to remember you in at least a positive light too.
3) Next time you want to have a girl guess your age, make sure she doesn't look like she's about to have a cow. She looked really uncomfortable and yet you didn't pick up on it. That's cause you weren't present. So you let her 'uncomfortable' frame get the best of the situation. If you were present you could have controlled the frame and put some effort into making it a fun thing for her.
4) I'm not going to even mention things like kino or asking for her number -- first get the basic stuff down. Eye contact, smile, presence, storytelling & involvement, teasing and playfulness. When you can create attraction, that's when you start asking for the close.
Wow, this was painful to watch. I've made these mistakes though, so I get it.
I just have one thing to say: Be normal. She has to be able to relate to you.
The douche bag look was never in style. Try something more normal, yet something a girl can appreciate. http://img2.timeinc.net/people/i/2009/stylewatch/blog/090629/ed-westwick-300x400.jpg
Of course, try not to do Question-Answer, but if someone asks you a question, answer it and move on.
Man oh man what a horrible date. This makes the guy in the last one look like a pro. Here are my thoughts:
ReplyDelete1) The guy was somewhere else in space in his head. He was definitely NOT with this girl at this date. Next time, be present to your date. Absence is a no no.
2) He asks HER if she's nervous. Great opener dude. Out of the 1000s of openers available online -- you had to ask that. What happened to a good old 'Hi'? I'm sure you could have done way better with "Who lies more?"
3) As said in #1, he was absent -- and therefore also NOT paying attention to her posture or her body language. I think at one point she even reinitiated the conversation -- out of pity. He never picked up on it -- all that time he was in his head thinking she must not like him. Well guess what son, you made your imagination your reality.
What could this guy do better for next time?
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1) Stop assuming shit like she's too good for you. You went out of your way to dress well, you need to dress the 'inside' of your mind well too. If you believe beautiful women are within your realm, and they do want to sleep with you -- you will achieve it. You have to believe first.
2) Talk about stuff. The last guy in the video below at least talked about stuff he did in Vegas -- at least the girl will remember him as the 'Vegas guy'. You should want this girl to remember you in at least a positive light too.
3) Next time you want to have a girl guess your age, make sure she doesn't look like she's about to have a cow. She looked really uncomfortable and yet you didn't pick up on it. That's cause you weren't present. So you let her 'uncomfortable' frame get the best of the situation. If you were present you could have controlled the frame and put some effort into making it a fun thing for her.
4) I'm not going to even mention things like kino or asking for her number -- first get the basic stuff down. Eye contact, smile, presence, storytelling & involvement, teasing and playfulness. When you can create attraction, that's when you start asking for the close.
Wow, this was painful to watch. I've made these mistakes though, so I get it.
ReplyDeleteI just have one thing to say: Be normal. She has to be able to relate to you.
The douche bag look was never in style. Try something more normal, yet something a girl can appreciate.
http://img2.timeinc.net/people/i/2009/stylewatch/blog/090629/ed-westwick-300x400.jpg
Of course, try not to do Question-Answer, but if someone asks you a question, answer it and move on.