Welcome to my collection of internet thoughts. I got into pickup because I was always in the friend zone with all the girls I used to hang out with. Using the techniques I finally got laid at 27, and have been on an awesome journey since. These are my stories. :)
Just thought I'd post some quick podcasts today on tips for opening & bantering - what I've sort of learned over time from the field. Both are pretty quick listens, enjoy, let me know what you think and if it helps you out, awesome!
'Sup all! Another podcast. I have some clips of me in set too, I'll post those a little later (as sound quality sucks so gotta fix it). I should make shorter podcasts, but I feel like every time I go out, I learn a boat load - so I don't want to forget any of that stuff. In any case we'll see as I get better at this, I'll figure out a way to talk about all the stuff I learned, while giving value and being concise. Well, without further ado - have a listen or enjoy the read; both lots of good content and let me know your thoughts!
Yes girls like this are out there, and yes they can be really attractive in terms of personality too.
I met one last night and it was fucking awesome. :-)
Stuff Discussed:
- Mind Share - meeting of the minds mixer
- How I'm impressed by speakers that come to these events
- Wanting to have good stage presence like them - how did they get it?
- I need to use less 'ums' & 'likes' in speaking- usually comes out when I'm really storytelling - call me out on it! :-)
- Of course, you also gotta know your audience too - can't always be 'eloquent'
- Me feeling good about game, result of going out so much for last several months (I guess July)
- Impressed by HotSeat with Tyler in July - felt motivated to push myself to see how much better I could get
- Rejection just makes you better - puts you into state, you get to the point where you want it to work (this is even true for cold calling/sales)
- Going out alone was tough at first, but glad I powered my way through it - feel like I can have a party anytime I want rather than waiting for wings/friends to make up their mind... (SUCKS)
- Learned how to make social proof, merge sets
- Give people value first, but of course they're on a timeline too: they have 1 min 30 sec to impress me (that's pretty generous!) - this is a great reframe for me, and allows me to move quickly, not waste time.
- Some people just aren't ready to party - girls included!
- Save your life, don't waste your time - have a timer on yourself
- If a girl's BOOM on with me, I love that. That's worth my time, and I can totally pick up my game, say awesome stuff.
- Approached hottest girl in room, best set the entire night, totally worth it
- Cloud falls in love a 'lil. Meets beautiful korean, she's a designer/ceo, travelled the world, seeks adventure - pushed herself to learn spanish while stuck in Spain for 3 months; without previously knowing the language
- Sifu (my wing in AZ) helps me out nowadays - gives me some openers:
"What's the news?"
Reactions:
1. Cool people play off it
2. Some people literally tell you the news on TV
3. Lame people say lame shit upon opening - ditch them quickly
Stick in the sets with the people you really hit it off with
"Are you married?" - More fun than 'Are you single?'
Reactions:
Girls will usually qualify for reasons why they're not married yet - so you can do lots of rewards plus kino (I find it's okay to lay the mack down during that time 'cause they appreciate it during this midgame).
- Be more playful during Midgame than talking -- very important for moving the interaction further. I was able to isolate my Korean hottie to the bar 'cause of this and flirt for a long time before making plans again later and # closing.
- Final story: One final set :-) Just for the hell of it. Positivity rules - seek winners!
Another day, another podcast!! Yah so, this time I went home to visit the 'rents (source of my rent too haha jk). If I don't see them every now and then, they start to call more and leave voicemails about bills I haven't paid yet, errands they need from me, and in general why I don't come home enough. Typically in the past, if I avoided them too long (like a month) - it blows up, and they come over themselves to my place unexpectedly to check in. (They think I'm in trouble or dead or something). Think 'Everybody Loves Raymond' - Raymond's parents are like my parents.
Worried Indian Parents - Bend it Like Beckham
So in order to appease and keep them from doing surprise visits - I check in with them every now and then (and just pretty much leave my pickup to the windowsill). That is until last weekend when the family invited me to my dad's company annual picnic & fair. I didn't think I'd be picking up at the fair, but I unexpectedly I did - and I came across sort of the life of that party there. Not only did I meet some hot girls and get numbers, but I also ended up impressing my parents and their co-workers on top of that! Here's to picking up more often on family vacation! :D
Stuff I discuss in the podcast:
- My relationship with my folks, my bro 'Bird' chimes in.
- How I don't really do pickup when they're around - mainly because of fear they won't approve
- The fair and how I just operated in 'Level 2' mode - very 'social' and it helped me get into the groove for later
- Level 2 is good enough to impress my dad's business friends
- Dance floor game - and how just knowing '2 step' can make you stand out from 'observers'
- My first 'normal' interaction with 2 amazingly beautiful daughters of my dad's co-workers
- How I rocked that opening sequence, and then instantly got an instadate
- Midgame and what I learned
- Dancing some more and being awesome - thanks my dude Swirl
- Solidifying it all and getting approval of my folks
- How my mom was impressed and called my bro out for being 'chicken' not to approach.. Whoa mom?
- How happy I am I can finally enjoy my family vacations if we ever go out again (feel like Will Smith)
- Questions - do you guys pickup while with parents? What do your parents think of you hanging out with girls? Bringing chicks back? Do they have 'expectations' of you?
And with all that - text game begins :D My new challenges this week are to come up with good day2 ideas and keep it fresh and interesting, while leading to sex (without being creepy of course).
Hey guys, went out with my pal Cesar the other night wine tasting at Skybar. It was a really hip party, with lots of high class people roaming around getting drunk and of course super hot girls. However, this time I was ready. I didn't really stand around waiting to approach, I went at it pretty much all night. I recorded some sessions - so have a listen - I added my own commentary, but let me know what you think as well.
Are you guys having fun? How many drinks did you have?
I say 6th one - she says 5th! PARTAY
Came with her friend - I say she's getting hit on by other dudes
But she's more aggressive and knows what she wants, you're still trying to figure it out!
She's not looking (shit test)
Do you want to help us look for buried treasure
I'm 10 years older than you…I'm not 25 (shit test)
I'm 25? I love it - forever young!
How old are you?
I'm old enough to be your grandfather!
Looking to have a good time, looking to have a party, you look like you were trying to find something to do.
Do you Karaoke? English or Karaoke?
How did you know I was Chinese?
I'm good!
I was blessed with 256 languages (I know the whole world)
She calls Cesar mixed Asian again.
(at this point she was hooked, Cesar left, so I kept talking to her)
She wanted a drink, so she took me to find one with her - we held hands, then she took me back to her group of friends (some director guy). I sit next to her with her director friend, and just put my hand over her leg as I talk to director guy. I find out they're not together, so I stroke her hair, think about kissing her a couple times, talk into her ear (but my confidence falls a little). In any case, I get her number. Cesar eventually sees us altogether so he sits with us, then her friend lost comes back drunk. She wants to go home and pulls Asian chick away - Cesar can't keep the friend entertained, and I don't chase her.
